to the bum is confused to say the least. It is probably the proximity
of the excretory function of the anus that is the root cause
of human hostility to the buttocks.
The anus is full of thousands of nerve endings both inside and outside, making it very sensitive. For some people, the anus is an erogenous zone that can respond to sexual touch and stimulation. For others, it's a hands-off zone that needs to be respected. It is okay to enjoy anal stimulation, and it's also okay to dislike it - both preferences are common.
Anal sex play is often associated with gay men. However, many men and women, regardless of whether they're gay, lesbian, straight, or bisexual, enjoy anal stimulation. And many, including gay men, don't. Some straight couples use anal sex as a way to preserve the woman's virginity. For those who like it, anal stimulation can be part of masturbation, intercourse, or oral sex.
Anal intercourse is sex
play that involves insertion of the penis or a sex toy into the
anus. Generally, for women, pleasure is derived through anal
intercourse due to the shared nerve endings that are located
between the rectal wall and the vagina. The anus itself also
contains many nerves which can also react in
a pleasurable manner when excited.
However, you do
not need to spend money on such devices as your local fruit or
wine shop can provide just what you need.
However, you should be aware that using any sort of glassware as an anal dildo can be unwise, unless it was a purpose made dildo of toughened glass. Far better to go with fruit/veg, a proper dildo or penis. I've heard of someone who used a wooden tool handle and ended up with a splinter, very difficult to explain away at A&E.
A final word of advice for beginners wanting to try the Anus as a source of pleasure, play safe and use plenty of lubricant and it can be an enjoyable experience.
Beyond the anus there is the prostate gland that is relatively easy to massage using the Aneros and other devices, which can provide much pleasure.
Bum and Anus Gallery
This story is from David:
Congratulation on another groundbreaking and interesting addition to your web pages. I have had a quick read of the new section and have found it great fun and so I have attached a couple of photos to see if they are worth putting on the page. Being a married guy I have always been reluctant to admit to enjoying anal stimulation, maybe the problem of not wanting to be labelled or categorised. Its a lot like oral sex, some people participate and others find it dirty or objectionable and we have to discover what is and is not acceptable to our partners. My wife enjoys me going down on her but will not return the pleasure and she will not allow anal sex or play with my anus. This is not a problem since I love to give her oral sex and have other ways of getting anal stimulation.
I have always enjoyed masturbation since I found out how good it felt to get erect and play with my cock. At first it was the sensation of orgasm that generated the enjoyment but then the playing and arousal that got me to the edge of orgasm and holding it there as long as possible. Staying erect or partly erect all day is great and one of the reasons I enjoy nudity so much. As a growing teenager I had a few friends with whom I shared some time masturbating and one of those enjoyed playing with his nipples as much as his penis but for whatever reason I have never got any particular stimulation from that area. Growing up in the 60s being queer was not accepted as readily as todays acceptance of being gay (labels again) so I never explored my bum since it was girls not boys that interested me and they were what I enjoyed masturbating over or their pictures. I started to discover anal stimulation in my early 30s, while in the shower. I guess I was enjoying masturbating while washing and while washing my bum found I had some enjoyable feeling from my anus area resulting in me washing my anus with soapy fingers and basically finger fucking my arse. (Crude but how else do you describe it) Like masturbation once you start you find variations that are either enjoyable so you carry on or not so good and try something else. So next day, after a morning doing nude DIY between playing with my penis, I was in the shower before work and there was this plastic handle screwdriver handy so with a bit of soap and water I enjoyed my first home made dildo and the feeling when I came with it still inserted up my anus was mind-blowing. I still have it as you see from the attached photo. This lead to a search of the house and tool shed for any penis shaped objects and quite a few items ended up being inserted. I remember a small hand fork with a round handle being inserted and then I cut the grass nude, in those days the back garden was totally private.
Like most things in life one step leads to another and I met a very gay guy at a nudist beach and he asked me outright if I would like to fuck him. (Crude again but thats what he offered) We found a secluded spot and with condom and KY Jelly I enjoyed my first anus. Im not sure what I expected but he was smooth and slightly tight but I think we both enjoyed it, I know I did. That experience set off other thoughts, could I enjoy someones penis up me? What would it be like and dare I go for it? Finally the situation happened and I agreed to let a guy fuck me for the first time. Again at a nudist beach or the dunes and it really turned me on it was so different and the feeling so intense as he gently penetrated my anus and then slowly at first began to fuck me. It turned out he was married as I met his wife the following week and while I tried to avoid the meeting just in case he didnt want her to know since while he was naked she was in a one piece swim suit. He deliberately went out of his way to talk to me and then introduced me to his wife as, the young guy I shagged last week. No immediate divorce just a polite hello and you would think he had introduced me as an old school friend.
Thats how I lost my virginity and found I enjoyed being shagged or fucked whatever you want to call it. There are rules, size matters but not a lot, condoms are a must as is a lubricant. Take it steady to start until sure it fits, enjoy it. Failing that I am looking at the fruit and vegetables and will get the camera out if I can send some more photos? Any preference as I love showing off.
Regarding my second meeting with the guy that shagged me. It was a week after our first encounter and they were already settled on the edge of the sand dunes behind a windbreak. I had been working that morning so I was early afternoon when I got to the beach. Once I got to the nudist part I like to strip off and then find a sheltered spot to sunbathe. Some days it is easy to find somewhere, others, when it is busy can take some walking, but I enjoy a nude walk.
So I was walking along nude when he stood up behind the windbreak, we were near enough to recognise each other. He came out to meet me and of course he was nude as well. However, by the time we met I could see round the end of the windbreak and could see his wife or partner sat there reading a book but could see she was not nude. We stood and exchanged pleasantries for a couple of minutes and then he invited me to shelter from the small breeze that was blowing and just taking the edge off the sun. I asked if his wife would mind me being nude and he just said it was Ok she was used to it, so I went back to the windbreak with him and that's when he dropped the bombshell, "this is the guy I shagged last week." She put down the book and looked up and said something like, "Did you enjoy it?" I was totally lost, what do you say or do faced with the matter of fact conversation like that? I just told her I had enjoyed it and it had been my first time. I though if they can be so laid back about it so can I. Then she said, "I'm not very keen having it up there, but Colin likes a bit of bum so I let him go and find some now and then, it keeps him happy and if you enjoyed it too everyone's happy."
Then the conversation went off into how often I visited the beach and all the other trivial things people talk about. She was very pleasant and good to talk to and you would think it was the most natural thing in the world for her to be talking to a naked stranger that had been shagged by her husband. The fun thing would have been to do it again while she watched but it didn't turn out that way.
I am passive when it comes to sex which means it is me who receives anal and also sucks the men's cocks. My experiences are with John and with John and his friends. Normally I would kneel in front of John and suck him until he was fully hard, when he was he would then finger me and use a lubricant, this would normally take half an hour or so and would then involve a toy, always very slow and gentle so not to hurt me.
This normally went on until my hole remained open when dildo was removed. This means you feel relaxed. John would then normally lay down on floor and I would sit on his cock and it would go in quite easily. Also I would be sat on it facing away from him as he liked to see it going in and out. If his friends were there they would be stood round in circle while I gave them suckings at the same time too. Condoms always worn for anal but taken off for oral as John liked to see get sperm on me, especially from his friends too. lol. If it ever hurts then things stop and more lubricant is applied and the toy re-used. The whole thing normal is about an hour I suppose, but if his friends are there its usually much longer, and thats when positions are a lot different as all positions have to be one in mouth one in bum etc throughout. I have preferred doing it with John and his friends really, because it seems more fun and also they give loads of praise while I`m doing it which is good to get.
David's Thoughts on the Subject
Why would one be attracted to a particular part of the body? What makes the breasts or legs or navel or feet or buttocks so attractive to some, but not others. And what is it with the recent fashion for girls to shave off their pubic hair? (I did have a theory about why men found this attractive, based on the theory that in my youth in 1960s the porn of the day, mostly H&E in A5 format, did not show pubes, so a whole generation grew up expecting girls not to have a hairy minge. This theory falls flat in 2006 as pubes have been shown for decades but men still like the smooth look.)
But I digress as this is about bottoms, and I really like bottoms but I can not explain why.
I thought I might share a few bum moments with you and see if you concur that the events are sexy.
This summer a friend came to visit, a young lady who enjoys the naturist lifestyle. She spent the whole weekend naked. Late on Sunday evening it was time for her to leave so I accompanied her and her partner to the gate of the naturist club to let them out. As they walked down the lane she lifted her skirt and flashed her bare bum at me. OK so she was going home commando. I had seen her bum all weekend, so why would a two second flash be so exciting?
A few years back I went to a fetish exhibition in London. Lots of trade stands selling sex toys and a fashion show. Rather fun, a naughty but nice atmosphere. There were two girls wandering around the hall with big feather headdresses and feather tails. I caught a glimpse of them from a distance and assumed the feathers were attached to their bums as part of their pants. Oh no, the feathers were attached to a dildo up the anus. So you have to ask, what's it like having feathers sticking out your arse? Apparently rather nice, as you move the feathers jiggle the dildo and it stimulates the nerve endings in the anus.
There was another girl wandering around the shown a short skirt. She kept dropping her handbag, when she bent over to pick it up her knickers showed, and there was an advertising slogan on her bum. I remember her bum vividly, I have no idea what she was promoting. One advertising campaign that failed.
Apparently Marilyn Monroe has an eight of an inch trimmed off from one heel of her stiletto shoes to accentuate the wiggle of her hips as she walked. I find wiggly hips really sexy.
The odd thing is that many girls think that their bums are too big and their cellulite is ugly. Big bums with dimply bits are wonderful!
You asked for a
few notes on my more unusual activities.
I first became intrigued with anal exploration in my early 20s. I don't really remember why it happened when it did, but I do remember enjoying the sensations of inserting my finger in that forbidden spot. I quickly realized that something longer and thicker than my finger might be more fun and I found a round-handled kitchen knife that worked quite well (the handle part of course). I then did a little research and discovered dildos and butt plugs. Masturbating with a dildo in the ass is an incredibly intense feeling. Anal intercourse can be extremely exciting, and Analingis is an extremely erotic event, however both require the utmost trust between you and your partner. I also have a vibrator with an anal sleeve that is quite interesting.
Even before digital
cameras I had an interest in photography. Not that I had an expensive
Once again I feel
compelled to write and congratulate you on some of the latest
subjects on your pages. I have always enjoy your frank discussions
of sometimes taboo subjects and have particularly enjoyed the
naked photos and the wonderful erection photos,some truly lovely
pictures. I have not logged on for a while for various reasons
but when I did I was surprised and delighted to see your bum
and anus gallery,again what marvellous photos,some lovely holes.
My first experience
was a few years ago when I answered an advert in the local press
for a 'naturist massage by mature male'.
I suppose I was hoping that something would 'happen' as I was ready to explore that side of my sexuality. There was a period of some days between making first contact with Peter and actually attending and I spend this time going for a couple of sun beds, shaving my arse and trimming and shaving my pubic hair into a small tuft. I find that the anticipation leads to more excitement. By the time of the appointment I had decided that I would like to experience anything that came my way.
On the day of my
appointment I arrived at a large detached house and the door
was answered by a distinguished looking gent in his mid to late
60's. He invited me in and took me to an upstairs bedroom, instructing
me to undress and lie on the bed, which I did. Peter also undressed
completely. He was slim, toned, tanned all over, and was totally
Peter then asked
if I minded him admiring my arse and I told him that I was very
flattered. He then shifted his position and I then felt a wonderful
sensation on my anus. It was a few moments before I realised
that he was actually licking my arsehole. Involuntarily I lifted
my hips off the bed to meet his tongue. "Ooh... I think
we've discovered an eager little slut" Peter said. I said
nothing to argue the point, I was enjoying it too much.
On a subsequent
visit I arrived and the door was answered by a grey haired, middle
aged woman who was dressed very conservatively in tweed skirt
and cardigan. She spoke very nicely, shook my hand and introduced
herself as Sylvia, Peter's wife. She said Peter was expecting
me, and led me upstairs. I was totally shocked as I had assumed
Peter was gay.
I had my first anal experience recently, at a naturist establishment on the South Coast. I had been there for a few hours, enjoying the facilities and engaging in some mutual masturbation with some of the other visitors. As time went on, the numbers dwindled until there were only a few people remaining. I went back to the rest rooms for a lie down, and after a few minutes, a chap put his head around the door to see what I was doing. As I had my erect penis in my hand, he rightly assumed that I was looking for some fun.
I followed him to another rest room where I began to masturbate him. He then indicated for me to suck him which I gladly did. Some moments later, he stood behind me and tried to force his erection inside me. This took me a little by surprise as I was not expecting this. He motioned for me to stay where I was, and disappeared for a minute or two. When he came back, he was carrying a condom. He put this on and I got on all fours on the bed with my arse facing him.
He began to push his penis inside me, but due to a combination of inexperience on my part and a lack of lubrication, it did not go in. He then laid down on the bed and I tried to sit on his penis. Again, it wasn't happening. He then got me to lie on my back with my legs in the air. He then tried again and slowly his penis entered me. There was a certain amount of pain, but it was bearable. After some minutes of thrusting, he announced that he was going to cum and then slowly he withdrew from my anus.
For the next few
days it did feel like I was passing razorblades when I defacated,
but the experience is one I would like to try again. I would
also like to enter a man to feel what that is like.